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The Capacity to Love

Lisa Cutforth - Friday, November 27, 2009

Love oh love! 

... the mystery, the giddy excitement, the contentment, the pain, the pleasure.

A special friend sent me this piece on "The Capacity to Love" and I thought it was beautiful enough to share with you all. 

"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love.  It may look paradoxical to you but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those persons who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person- without possessing the other, without reducing the other to a thing and without becoming addicted to the other.  They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now.  Their happiness cannot be taken away by the other, because it is not given by the other.
The capacity to love
Then why do they want to be together?  It is no longer a need; it is a luxury.  Try to understand it.  Real persons love each other as a luxury: it is not a need.  They enjoy sharing: they have so much joy, they would like to pour
it into somebody.  And they know how to play their life as
a solo instrument.  The solo flute player knows how to enjoy his flute alone.  And if he comes and finds a tabia player, they will enjoy being together and creating a harmony between the flute and the tabia.  Both will enjoy it: they will both pour their richness into each other."

Can the capacity to be alone be the capacity to love, how closely does this tune in to: to love others you must first be able to love yourself?  I invite you to share your thoughts with us...

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